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07-10-2018, 06:41 PM | #1 |
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Lakeview Tavern in Meredith
Went to Lakeview Tavern in Meredith for an early dinner with my sister and her husband. Within 5 minutes of sitting at a table, a d-head at the bar had turned all the way around and was waggling his tongue at me. Defaulting to my raising, I moved my seat at the table, and also mentioned it to our waitress, rather than heading over to him and making a scene (he did stop after I mentioned it to our server). When we left, his buddy, who was outside having a smoke, asked my bil if he could get 2 women if he shaved his head (which is what my bil does). I just shouted, 'Me too, buddy, me too.' In the future, I'm taking pictures and posting it on all social media I participate in.
This is too bad, because I won't be returning to the Lakeview Tavern, even though their food and service was fine today, and fine in the past. Sent from my SM-G955U using Winnipesaukee Forum mobile app
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They sound like a couple of classless, idiots.
You did the right thing but in my opinion the manager should have tossed their butts for their behavior... If someone were treating my wife or any person with me that way, it might not have ended well for them. |
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If you're pleased with the quality and service of the establishment, perhaps allow the manager or owner to hear of your experience rather than writing the restaurant off completely.
This thread will not fix the issue. |
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I’ll assume those idiots had zero idea what #metoo meant.
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All I'm saying is OP should have a talk with a manager or owner directly. Perhaps there isn't an SOP in place and this information cannot otherwise be disseminated thru this thread. Gotta give the leadership team a chance. |
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I think how to deal with such people is a tough and complicated subject. A restaurant is a public place. Anyone can come in, even jerks. This might have been the first problem they have had in years. Do you confront obnoxious people? Many can become even worse. Think about road rage. Yes, you can call the police. Maybe they will get there in 10 minutes. How much ability to manage difficult people does the average wait person, some who are high school kids, have? If the problem rarely happens, how ready is the staff to handle it? A bartender in some nighttime taverns knows he might have a problem with the occasional rowdy person and is more prepared. A server in a daytime restaurant, maybe not so much. The second guy was hanging around outside, mostly beyond the purview of the staff. Do they need a security guard to patrol the grounds to deal with a possible repeat incident that may happen only rarely? The staff actions inside DID seem to manage the problem. Do you kick the jerk out for talking if he stops talking?
To be crystal clear, the actions of the jerks were bad and needed to be addressed. I just think it's a very hard problem for a public place to solve. I hope the restaurant people are fully aware of what happened and that they talk over their options for dealing with it in the future. It's too bad it tainted gillygirl's dinner and it is understandable not to want to go back to a place where you had an unwanted and uncomfortable confrontation. |
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I've been there twice since it opened and haven't been back. Neither experience was good, the food, the wait staff, and the customers they attracted were not to my liking. I'd much rather go to Frog Rock just up the street. I'm really surprised it's lasted this long.
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How about being a politico eating at a restaurant...
And happens to be Republican and some entitled moron starts yelling at you for your political position and you are forced to vacate your meal and leave?
What should management do in these instances? And I've wondered if the attacked diner, who has to flee, pays for the half-eaten meal? I wouldn't. We have become a society that is offensive, easily offended, obnoxious, impolite, entitled, angry, infantile...Sorry, I'm realizing there are too many adjectives to list here that would apply today...Sad! I would rather have dinner with someone I could have a polite, intellectual discussion on a subject we disagree on, than someone who says "Yes" and "I agree" to everything I say. I enjoy polite intellectual discourse. Are we on the verge of a civil (uncivil) war? It is becoming very close to violence out there.
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This thread is going off the rails fairly quickly!
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The difference at Frog Rock is the owner is always there behind the bar to settle down any unruly customer. Frog Rock's been around a long time so most of the customers are regulars.
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My point is you brought politics into the thread when it was not necessary. Management should simply, politely and calmly ask the person that is acting inappropriately to kindly refrain from that type of behavior then if it persists kindly ask them to please leave.
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A bit of a caffeine rant, but...
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Manager should be informed and involved
In my humble opinion, the server should have involved the manager or owner immediately so that he / she could nip the problem in the bud, and make sure the offending customer was not overserved (a real possibility).
Gillygirl, sorry for the hassle. Dave
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I agree, it makes one wonder what is going on in this country!!
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As to the political issue referenced, the biggest issue I have is the hypocrisy I see. If it is OK to refuse to bake a cake for someone based on their sexual identity, and you actively and vocally support that policy, than you can expect people not to serve you based on your political viewpoint. Personally, I think all businesses should serve all paying customers and treat them with kindness and respect regardless of anything else. |
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That being said, for instances when a customer is accosted in a restaurant, it is up to the restaurant owner to protect the customer, unless the behavior is criminal. Whether the customer is accosted by political enemies or a misogynous creep, the owner, I would think, has a duty to protect the customer, if the owner values the customer. If the owner does not decide to protect the customer, as in the Sarah Sanders/Red Hen incident, then we as customers can decide whether to patronize the establishment and encourage others to do the same. |
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The Supreme Court does not take cases like these to craft narrow decisions. They take these types of cases to make a statement. Think Roe v. Wade. The baker offered to make the couple a cake without referencing marriage. The owner of the Red Hen followed Sarah Sander's family to another restaurant shouting at them the whole way.
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By narrow decision I simply meant that the Supreme Court left undecided whether a business owner’s religious or free speech rights can justify denying service. Justice Kennedy's decision focused on the religious bias of the Colorado Civil Rights Comission. It was a victory for the baker, but does not set precedent for other business owners to deny service based solely on religious beliefs. As to either of the business owners here, the baker or the restaraunt owner, chasing down and berating the customer, again, I have not heard or read about that. Protestors after the fact, yes, but not the owners. Perhaps I am wrong.
I believe that all people, black, white, gay, straight, liberal, conservative, etc. should be welcome everywhere. If, however, anyone acts inappropriately, he or she should be held accountable. Last edited by Garcia; 07-11-2018 at 03:30 PM. |
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Garcia you are correct, it was not the owner but protestors. I wish people would deal in the facts, not what they heard on the latest conservative/liberal talk show. You are also correct re: the SC decision. If you doubt him Major just read the record.
I agree there is a growing lack of civility in our society. I can’t understand when it became appropriate to taunt/shout down/harass/assault someone because of their beliefs or exercising their right to free speech. What happened to informed discussion? I hate to say it because I know it will open a can of worms but, the guy who lives at 1600 Pennsylvania Ave isn’t doing anything to bring civility back. Sent from my iPhone using Winnipesaukee Forum mobile app |
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Also, I read the Decision, not some Wikipedia or NY Times summation of it. It's implications are larger than a "narrow" decision. Have you read it? I think we agree that someone should be able to enjoy a night out without being accosted by political enemies. However, I do not think our President should do anything to bring civility "back" to politics, as if it ever existed in the first place. He has been derided since he took office. (Remember the women's march on January 21, 2017.) I love the fact he fights back and believes in what he's doing. Let's put it this way, conservatives felt the same way about the individual who occupied the White House prior to Trump, it's just that conservatives don't have time for senseless protests and foolishness. Anyway, it will all be moot once Kavanaugh is appointed. I'm rooting for another appointment during Trump's term! |
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You’d better take a look at mad Maxine and her “crew” of obstructionist, violence insighting, Democrats before you blame our great president for their incivility! Wow. |
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Again, I have to disagree. Mike Huckabee’s statement on the Laura Ingram show about the owner following and berating his daughter has been looked into and found to be not credible. The protestors in both incidents, however, were completely out of line.
Political views notwithstanding, a forceful, take charge leader is fine. One who demeans, belittles, and comes up with juvenile nicknames doesn’t set an example that works for me. I expect more from my employees, my children, and everyone I come into contact with. I would love to see our President lead with civility. As to the SC nominee, again I go back to hypocrisy. It is wrong for the Democratic leadership to announce opposition before there is even a hearing scheduled, just like it was wrong for the Republican leadership to prevent a hearing after Scalia died. The whole conversation reminds me of the earlier thread about Right of Way. Do we want to prove a point by shouts and threats, or do we want to listen to each other, learn, and make informed decisions - which we will not all agree with. No one is shouting and threatening here, but I lament the overall loss of civility and constructive dialogue where we look for similarities rather than differences. Not having met any of the posters on this forum, but having spent a lot of time on the water, I will end by saying I feel the majority of people on the forum, just like the majority on the water, are good people! |
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Major, you are correct; Snopes did say that, right at the start. But if you read further down in the "analysis" you'll find the following (among other possibilities of what might have happened):
"At some point in the evening members of the group encountered Wilkinson outside on the street, but it’s not clear whether Wilkinson followed them there or simply happened to be passing by. (We sent Wilkinson a series of questions relating to the events of that evening but did not receive a response.) The Southern Inn is not across the street from the Red Hen, although it is a few hundred feet away on Main Street (Lexington’s primary thoroughfare), meaning that Wilkinson could have incidentally bumped into the Sanders family on her way to somewhere else." In any case, it seems unlikely there was an organized protest led by the owner of the Red Hen. |
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I didn’t say that. I said he isn’t doing anything to bring it back. A leader leads. If he acted more civil it would help move the ball back to the center.
Yes I did read the full decision. You need to read the words and take them as written. You can’t read into them what you would like them to say. It was a narrowly focused decision. And by the way, the court publishes narrowly focused decisions quite frequently. Sent from my iPhone using Winnipesaukee Forum mobile app |
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Wilkinson did not organize a picket or protest against Sanders's family, nor did she personally picket or protest them. Apart from one person's briefly holding up a sign, no protest or picket against the family of Sarah Huckabee Sanders took place.
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Now this thread has really gone off the rails!
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Only in the movies, sitcoms, and late night.
Behavior in our society is more likely influenced by Hollywood then by Washington..
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Yes its absurd to think that Hollywood or the entertainment industry could influence people away from civility. What movie introduced the word "dude" to replace sir?
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