The Bob House (Closed Thread)

PennyPenny · 09-25-2009, 07:06 PM

I know so many people who know of this forum and could care less what so many of us members post about anything. Many people say this forum is to one sided and you have to be on the agreeable side. I am starting to agree with members and non-members who say so much. So many people are so mean to others if they don't agree with a members post/opionion. Perhaps some people do look forward to reading and commenting everyday. Could people be a little kinder? There is more to life then the internet.

Pineedles · 09-25-2009, 08:10 PM

Let's not simplify this to only "so many people being mean to others! There is a lot of history to this conflict, and if you don't know what is going on, then I would suggest that you don't get involved. Believe me, you don't want to get involved with this conflict! Those involved are trying to work it out, behind the scenes.

Perhaps we can stop this thread and start another? I can't believe I said that.

breathe easy · 09-25-2009, 10:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pineedles

Let's not simplify this to only "so many people being mean to others! There is a lot of history to this conflict, and if you don't know what is going on, then I would suggest that you don't get involved. Believe me, you don't want to get involved with this conflict! Those involved are trying to work it out, behind the scenes.

Perhaps we can stop this thread and start another? I can't believe I said that.

So why don't you start some other thread so those of us who want to read real restaurant reviews don't have to be subjected to this " conflict"?

Gatto Nero · 09-25-2009, 11:20 PM

Up until this evening I had scanned some of the posts involving LovelyToSeeYou and The Bob House over the past weeks but not really paid much attention. I must admit that I initially got the impression that she might be someone with an agenda and I moved on before it started getting so nasty and accusatory.

Today though, I got an email from an island neighbor of mine. A very lovely lady that I have met in passing several times over the past few years as my wife and I walked the island and she was tending to her flowers. In her email she was quite distressed and confused about the treatment she had received on the forum since joining just a short time ago. She did not ask me to write this but I thought it was the right thing to do. I hope it helps.

Although most of the people that I meet on the island are very friendly, most just wave, say hi, and go about their business. This person, however, probably knowing we were new to the island, went out of her way to make us feel comfortable and engage us in conversation. After we had stood in the street and talked with her for quite some time my wife and I came away thinking, what a lovely lady.

Well, wouldn't you know it. She is LovelyToSeeYou. A very lovely lady who is exactly as she say she is in those posts. She is not Nadia. She has no axe to grind. She is merely doing what she believed this forum was here to do. Perhaps some of you feel that she made a faux pas or two in the manner in which introduced herself to this forum. Whether she did or did not, I can tell you that she meant no harm.

As I think back on those chance meetings now, after having read all of these locked threads, I realized that the conversations my wife and I had had with her were very much like the comments in LovelyToSeeYou's threads. She was classy. She was eloquent. She told us exactly what she thought. She told us how she much she loved the lake and the island and her grandchildren. We also shared stories, good and bad, about the local restaurants. I believe, although I can't say for sure, that she told us her kids at once worked at the Woodshed as kids. Either way, I don't think that would qualify as being a local restaurant insider.

I believe that most of the folks on this forum are generally good people that want to share their stories. Perhaps it's time you give this new member a break and allow her to do the same.

Oh yeah, I'm pretty sure that she thinks VK chicken portions are smaller now

Pineedles · 09-26-2009, 08:48 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by breathe easy

So why don't you start some other thread so those of us who want to read real restaurant reviews don't have to be subjected to this " conflict"?

I am waiting for this thread to close, that's why.

LovelyToSeeYou · 09-26-2009, 10:57 AM

It is time that we stop rewarding people who attack and then destroy so that others will not post. Some of us want an honest and fair board. At least I do.

I do not know of any who are trying to work it our behind the scenes., Pineedles. Would you let me and the board know what that is all about? I have only recently joined so I know I am not part of the "There is a lot of history to this conflict, and if you do not know what is going on, then I would suggest that you don't get involved. Believe me, you do not want to get involved with this conflict." I think that sounds almost like some sort of a threat though I know you do not mean it that way. What is the story on some trying work it out behind the scenes? Not that I know of anyway.

Thank you Penny Penny for your support. We should all be able to post honestly and fairly. We are adults. There is a responsibility that comes with being an adult. There were a couple of lovely people in the recent past who tried to say why not wait and see if any of this is true, but they were driven off. Rose comes to mind. What a dear and lovely soul. And very brave. Some of the attackers will even follow a person to another area of posts and start to attack the same person there. Stopping this thread is not going to be an answer to this problem. Honesty, reason and positive action are the way to change things. I want to state here that NO ONE SHOULD ATTACK ANOTHER PERSONALLY. NOT EVER. REPEAT...NOT EVER. One can disagree with what a person says and hopefully in a polite fashion. One should never attack the person. (You know I appreciate my mother more and more as I go along in the forum.) LOL

Lastly thank you so much for your very kind post Gato Nero. I found your name and the location on the Winnipesaukee Forum and knew that we were both on the same wonderful island. Here we have an association and all have met one another etc. I noticed a link on one of your sites that said "email me". The email gave me no name so I regret that I do not know who you are. Would you possibly let me know which of our lovely residents you are so that I can thank you in person one day.

KonaChick · 09-26-2009, 11:29 PM

Didn't LoveyToSeeYou say she lived near the BobHouse Restaurant? Gatto Nero says she's an island neighbor, what am I missing here. If it's my mind please no replies!!!!!

09-25-2009, 07:06 PM	#1
PennyPenny Senior Member Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 140 Thanks: 4 Thanked 8 Times in 5 Posts	Give the woman(Ltsy) a break I know so many people who know of this forum and could care less what so many of us members post about anything. Many people say this forum is to one sided and you have to be on the agreeable side. I am starting to agree with members and non-members who say so much. So many people are so mean to others if they don't agree with a members post/opionion. Perhaps some people do look forward to reading and commenting everyday. Could people be a little kinder? There is more to life then the internet.

09-25-2009, 08:10 PM	#2
Pineedles Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Moultonborough & CT Posts: 2,550 Thanks: 1,072 Thanked 672 Times in 369 Posts	Enough! Let's not simplify this to only "so many people being mean to others! There is a lot of history to this conflict, and if you don't know what is going on, then I would suggest that you don't get involved. Believe me, you don't want to get involved with this conflict! Those involved are trying to work it out, behind the scenes. Perhaps we can stop this thread and start another? I can't believe I said that.

09-25-2009, 11:20 PM	#4
Gatto Nero Senior Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Isola Gatto Nero Posts: 697 Thanks: 162 Thanked 263 Times in 81 Posts	LovelyToSeeYou Up until this evening I had scanned some of the posts involving LovelyToSeeYou and The Bob House over the past weeks but not really paid much attention. I must admit that I initially got the impression that she might be someone with an agenda and I moved on before it started getting so nasty and accusatory. Today though, I got an email from an island neighbor of mine. A very lovely lady that I have met in passing several times over the past few years as my wife and I walked the island and she was tending to her flowers. In her email she was quite distressed and confused about the treatment she had received on the forum since joining just a short time ago. She did not ask me to write this but I thought it was the right thing to do. I hope it helps. Although most of the people that I meet on the island are very friendly, most just wave, say hi, and go about their business. This person, however, probably knowing we were new to the island, went out of her way to make us feel comfortable and engage us in conversation. After we had stood in the street and talked with her for quite some time my wife and I came away thinking, what a lovely lady. Well, wouldn't you know it. She is LovelyToSeeYou. A very lovely lady who is exactly as she say she is in those posts. She is not Nadia. She has no axe to grind. She is merely doing what she believed this forum was here to do. Perhaps some of you feel that she made a faux pas or two in the manner in which introduced herself to this forum. Whether she did or did not, I can tell you that she meant no harm. As I think back on those chance meetings now, after having read all of these locked threads, I realized that the conversations my wife and I had had with her were very much like the comments in LovelyToSeeYou's threads. She was classy. She was eloquent. She told us exactly what she thought. She told us how she much she loved the lake and the island and her grandchildren. We also shared stories, good and bad, about the local restaurants. I believe, although I can't say for sure, that she told us her kids at once worked at the Woodshed as kids. Either way, I don't think that would qualify as being a local restaurant insider. I believe that most of the folks on this forum are generally good people that want to share their stories. Perhaps it's time you give this new member a break and allow her to do the same. Oh yeah, I'm pretty sure that she thinks VK chicken portions are smaller now __________________ La vita è buona su Isola Gatto Nero

09-26-2009, 10:57 AM	#6
LovelyToSeeYou Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 49 Thanks: 3 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post	I certainly hope that this thread is not closed.......... It is time that we stop rewarding people who attack and then destroy so that others will not post. Some of us want an honest and fair board. At least I do. I do not know of any who are trying to work it our behind the scenes., Pineedles. Would you let me and the board know what that is all about? I have only recently joined so I know I am not part of the "There is a lot of history to this conflict, and if you do not know what is going on, then I would suggest that you don't get involved. Believe me, you do not want to get involved with this conflict." I think that sounds almost like some sort of a threat though I know you do not mean it that way. What is the story on some trying work it out behind the scenes? Not that I know of anyway. Thank you Penny Penny for your support. We should all be able to post honestly and fairly. We are adults. There is a responsibility that comes with being an adult. There were a couple of lovely people in the recent past who tried to say why not wait and see if any of this is true, but they were driven off. Rose comes to mind. What a dear and lovely soul. And very brave. Some of the attackers will even follow a person to another area of posts and start to attack the same person there. Stopping this thread is not going to be an answer to this problem. Honesty, reason and positive action are the way to change things. I want to state here that NO ONE SHOULD ATTACK ANOTHER PERSONALLY. NOT EVER. REPEAT...NOT EVER. One can disagree with what a person says and hopefully in a polite fashion. One should never attack the person. (You know I appreciate my mother more and more as I go along in the forum.) LOL Lastly thank you so much for your very kind post Gato Nero. I found your name and the location on the Winnipesaukee Forum and knew that we were both on the same wonderful island. Here we have an association and all have met one another etc. I noticed a link on one of your sites that said "email me". The email gave me no name so I regret that I do not know who you are. Would you possibly let me know which of our lovely residents you are so that I can thank you in person one day.

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09-26-2009, 11:29 PM	#7
KonaChick Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 518 Thanks: 19 Thanked 62 Times in 15 Posts	Didn't LoveyToSeeYou say she lived near the BobHouse Restaurant? Gatto Nero says she's an island neighbor, what am I missing here. If it's my mind please no replies!!!!!