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kunamola · 11-20-2005, 09:59 PM

To some extent the choices of how and where to bury your earthly remains depends on the circumstances of those around you whom you leave behind. If you have young children, they may not be able to handle cremation and will need a place and a headstone to visit as that may help them cope with the very real physical loss of a loved one. On the other hand, you may be an older person who lived a long life and wish to have your remains sprinkled at a location near to your earthly heart. When my 83 year old father died we felt cremation was the right route to take, his grandchildren had plenty of loving adult relations to support them in their loss and my dad had a love for the lake that was deep. We did talk over where to place his ashes with the grandchildren and opted not to sprinkle them from the canoe in the lake. They did not like the idea of swimming in water with the ashes. Instead we decided to leave his ashes concentrated in one spot on our property and opted not to have any sort of headstone or monument. You never know how long a family will be able to support a seasonal residence and we did not want to become so attached to a location that we could not leave the memorial behind if we had to. We also did not want to set a precendence of making our property into a cemetary, even if one only of ashes. In summary I think your wishes and plans can evolve several times in your life and none are wrong or right, just the right choice for the particular set of circumstances.

11-20-2005, 09:59 PM	#8
kunamola Member Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Northern Virginia and Melvin Village, NH Posts: 44 Thanks: 3 Thanked 4 Times in 3 Posts	burial To some extent the choices of how and where to bury your earthly remains depends on the circumstances of those around you whom you leave behind. If you have young children, they may not be able to handle cremation and will need a place and a headstone to visit as that may help them cope with the very real physical loss of a loved one. On the other hand, you may be an older person who lived a long life and wish to have your remains sprinkled at a location near to your earthly heart. When my 83 year old father died we felt cremation was the right route to take, his grandchildren had plenty of loving adult relations to support them in their loss and my dad had a love for the lake that was deep. We did talk over where to place his ashes with the grandchildren and opted not to sprinkle them from the canoe in the lake. They did not like the idea of swimming in water with the ashes. Instead we decided to leave his ashes concentrated in one spot on our property and opted not to have any sort of headstone or monument. You never know how long a family will be able to support a seasonal residence and we did not want to become so attached to a location that we could not leave the memorial behind if we had to. We also did not want to set a precendence of making our property into a cemetary, even if one only of ashes. In summary I think your wishes and plans can evolve several times in your life and none are wrong or right, just the right choice for the particular set of circumstances.